thousand children splash, a thousand variations of symptom Yep! ... not so easy to recognize the symptoms, to join another child and make our example! By cons, by dint of reading case histories, you will recognize your child in certain spheres of behavioral and other kids little girls. In my case, it helped a lot. So here is a description of Thomas, with its multiple variations of the famous symptom!
Thomas is the third child of a family of 4. It is to be as sincere as I know: he lies very badly! This that as a mother, I appreciate! It demonstrates not much remorse: He has no empathy. His excuses are cold and "mandatory" because I asked him to do. He learned that he must apologize, but did not see the importance, which creates everything out of anger among my peers. It is very Cartesian and does not include the imaginary world. He believes what he sees and only if it sees it. A real little ... Thomas! :-) And easily noticeable inequities. Important, therefore, to take what we say and not to promise or swear lightly.
The idea that someone can manipulate to get something not getting Tom Tom. It is an excellent prey for advertising: they say, is that it's true! If I listened to my Tom, I would buy all the telemarketers who goes on TV ... Thomas sees no evil instinctively. It easily becomes the scapegoat for children. As parents, it is a little ... stressful! By cons, teaching him to recognize these dangers, you can be sure that it does not deviate!
Tom can not read minds and misunderstood body language as the eyes angry, or sad. It was very difficult to detect what we think, to read our emotions on our face. and takes literally the sentence has two meanings. A tongue-in-cheek is the worst he could have contact! He had to learn the different facial expressions, as in a theater class. Besides, when I sit on a chair and watch her face expression, I see it often does with exaggeration. Because it's acquired, and not spontaneous. Sometimes he is wrong (laugh at the wrong time, for example). And for us, it's pretty funny, I confess! He makes us laugh at times! Today, he recognizes quite well the usual expressions, with the exception of a few. He does not learn by association, do not advance or association. Everything must be him explained in detail. By cons, his memory is phenomenal. All at once acquired, it forgets more!
It has mild verbal tics especially in the morning or I find myself with a little monkey, or a strange bird sitting at the table ... And when he's angry, he breaks his toys, its walls, its window, the door, etc.. Sometimes I feel like he feels sorry for the loss ...
Moreover, it has no games in his room. He has given all to his brother, or discarded, or broken ... My Mister Tom can not play and, to be honest, not interested in the everything. As for him, everything is real - real - it ignores the concept of role-playing and "wrangle". He pushes, hits, shoves therefore stronger than it should. Since it is very demanding towards himself and resents his mistakes, he is also very, very bad loser. Its activities focus on the design of cars, cycling, he practices with two wheels since he was 2 1 / 2 years, the computer and the DS. And he built the "jumps" for his brother. Yet. And yet. And again! what really enjoys Mister bro! He also loves anything that is electrical / control unit. It mounts and dismounts that comes into his hands. He wants, no .... it MUST understand how it works! Ah! the little curious!
To his regret, he has no gift in team sports .- Very well! ... Team sport .... empowered social .... one does not go without the other! He enjoys downhill skiing since the age of 3, which suits him perfectly. As he likes, he is pretty good! He reads very well for a boy of 8 years. He read the words once and remembers them easily. However, spelling is difficult. The "o", "water," the "makes no sense for him. But come to think, for whom this makes sense?? It might be interesting to add a splash overhaul the French. ... :-)
Thomas has a crazy need for affection, he will require when and where he wants. He does not like to flatter hair, except when he requests. He smiled often - toothpaste-ad style, speaks very little about him, like the presence of adults, is uncomfortable with children and has great difficulty being accepted by them. He wants to be appreciated - as we all do! - And it is strongly hurt by rejection, he refuses dramatically. Rejection is one of the causes of aggression, which causes the release ... that causes the aggression. In his moments, I can not touch. I do creates a crescendo that borders on hysteria. As an educator, I must of dosed since what is acceptable to him is not for my other children and live-to-ca.
My little person skilled fearless, but not seeking the thrill. If he gets in some funny situations, often under the good advice of his brother (hyperactive), his hero, who, after the court does adrenaline. Together, they make a nice pair of crackers! :-) (You see why I miss so much when they are not there?). ayayae!
At home, Thomas appreciates have responsibilities and it promotes. He hates when I change the routine. There is little in his daily routine. I can not derogate hours of sleep, or lifting. The unexpected rise of anxiety which leads to anger. It is therefore difficult to keep. And caregivers remain only 2 or 3 times. When I go to the cinema, for example, I choose the representation of 21hrs. Thus, he does not notice my absence.
His anxiety, his lack of social life, difficulty coping, lack of imagination and inability to extrapolate because it definitely difficulties ... Thus, he finds it difficult to choose proper clothing. : He can leave the house without socks, underwear, or keeping his pajamas under his clothes. :-)
When an adult is angry against him, Thomas has become isolated. In class, he goes into a corner. He does not like hot water or cold water and hates to be combed hair.
Medication Thomas help considerably to control certain aspects of his personality, medication which is, incidentally, the same as the hyperactive (Dexetrine, Aderral, Rithalin, etc.). That said, it does not solve the situation, she tempers, which allows my son, among others, to follow his classes in a regular public school, with parallel support.
Here! Do I go around the matter Tom? Of course not! I could go on for 3 pages to write! But it is a good summary ... And then I will surely be borne! Is not there one good reason to have a blog?
that, I wish you a great week!
Photo: Christmas 2009
